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updated 14.07.10 |
This
is the index for my Diary pages. As with any diary, it's a work in
progress. This diary is my
outlook on family life, work life and the rest of the baggage I'm
carrying as I go forward though hormone treatment towards transition
and beyond.
My experiences as my body and mind are altered by the hormones will be
recorded. I'll try and be as open as possible, if you know me and have
seen my other site bits, you'll realize I am pretty open and honest
about things. Some of the serious personal stuff I may choose to omit
if my wife says so .. names of friends and colleagues who do not know
about me I'll only use their initials to protect identities ...
specially mine .. till they know .. I have to be very careful till I am
"out" fully at work.




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Diary .. days 1- 28 (09-12-04 to 05-01-05) |
Well
this is where I start my "hormone trial" .. it soon becomes obvious
that this is so right for me. Christmas proves pretty stressful in a
way as the hormone changes really have started to kick in ..
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Diary .. days 29 - 56 (06-01-05 to 02-02-05) |
Things
are starting to settle, I'm feeling really happy but this is also a
scary time too .. this hormone trial is more than that .. it's opened
a window in my life .. and I think my breasts are "budding" already !!
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Diary .. days 57 - 84 (03-02-05 to 02-03-05) |
7th
Feb. : Motorbike accident .. My first hormonal black hole .. Lot's
of time spent creating a document / script to help me get my
message across to everyone. Get this wrong .. could be a disaster
for me.
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Diary .. days 85 - 112 (03-03-05 to 30-03-05) |
.. see 20th - 26th March ... the hardest days of my life, telling the family !!! |
Diary .. days 113 - 140 (31-03-05 to 27-04-05) |
4th April .. another black hole
trying to swallow me .. Telling friends about my plans is pretty stressful, but I am amazed how many are sympathetic to my struggle .. 4th April .. I'm put on Cipralex .. an anti depressant. |
Diary .. days 141 - 168 (28-04-05 to 25-05-05) |
More
people are told, and I get some lovely, caring replies, the owners of
our local Chinese are really kind .. but an unexpected turn against me
from my sister in law .. I thought she'd care more ..
May 23rd .. the Cipralex isn't helping .. so now it's Prozac. |
Diary .. days 169 - 196 (26-05-05 to 22-06-05) |
see 7th
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16th June ... the most scary but important days of Sarah's life ..
telling work !!! .. but the reception from colleagues is amazing !! 20th June .. an accident at work .. I cause chaos at St Mary's Hospital. |
Diary .. days 197 - 224 (23-06-05 to 20-07-05) |
Well the good news is that people are indicating that they really are Ok with the idea of my transition. Feedback through the HR department at work seems to be positive, though a few staff are "reserved" towards me now .. some I know from others don't know what to say. |
Diary .. days 225 - 252 (21-07-05 to 17-08-05) |
More people are told .. people are being very kind .. but I'm getting nervous as the day approaches .. |
Diary .. days 253 - 280 (18-08-05 to 14-09-05) |
... 30th
August 2005 .. I'm legally Sarah today ... start of my Real Life Test at work. |
Diary .. days 281 - 308 (15-09-05 to 12-10-05) |
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15-09-05 .. In hospital for an operation on my sinuses .. ... 27-09-05 .. my first taste of "public" nastiness, in Holland and Barratt's. Able to cope now .. I wean myself off of the Prozac. |
Diary .. days 309 - 336 (13-10-05 to 09-11-05) |
A 26-10-05 .. trip to France, and a truly wonderful reception from the hotel owner .. it's my first trip as Sarah, though the staff have seen the French version of my "telling folk" .. |
Diary .. days 337 - 364 (10-11-05 to 07-12-05) |
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10-11-05 .. truly the worst day of my life. .. 07-12-05 .. In Frimley Park Hospital for a minor OP on my foot .. |
Diary .. days 365 - 392 (08-12-05 to 04-01-06) |
... one year on hormones !!!. |
Diary .. days 393 - 420 (05-01-06 to 01-02-06) |
A school teacher finds my diary while searching for a respite home, she finds it fascinating .. we exchange e-mails for a while .. my last appointment with Russell Reid before his retirement .. he'll be missed. |
Diary .. days 421 - 448 (02-02-06 to 01-03-06) |
A run in with my engineering boss .. I feel I'm being victimized .. but it maybe I'm just a bit hormonal at the moment .. not the best of times to be honest .. I start speech therapy to try and feminise my voice !! |
Diary .. days 449 - 476 (02-03-06 to 29-03-06) |
... I'll never be 50 .. 49 again .. yes .. !!!. |
Diary .. days 477 - 504 (30-03-06 to 26-04-06) |
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Diary .. days 505 - 532 (27-04-06 to 24-05-06) |
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Diary .. days 533 - 560 (25-05-06 to 21-06-06) |
... Is this total disaster looming .. see 02-06-06 and 04-06-06. |
Diary .. days 561 - 588 (22-06-06 to 19-07-06) |
... Will I be jobless from 04-07-06 ? .. I shouldn't be .. time will tell. |
Diary .. days 589 - 616 (20-07-06 to 16-08-06) |
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Diary .. days 617 - 644 (17-08-06 to 13-09-06) |
... 30th August .. Sarah is 1 year old today .. !!! |
Diary .. days 645 - 672 (14-09-06 to 11-10-06) |
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Diary .. days 673 - 700 (12-10-06 to 08-11-06) |
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Diary .. days 701 - 728 (09-11-06 to 06-12-06) |
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Diary .. days 729 - 756 (07-12-06 to 03-01-07) |
09-12-06
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two
years on hormones !!!.
Christmas day, not one to remember though sadly we probably will. Happy New Year folks .. for me this is the big year !! |
Diary .. days 757 - 784 (04-01-07 to 31-01-07) |
I've got some serious organizing to do this month .. by the end of the month I expect to be talking to a doctor about dates .. I've also got to do something serious about my weight .. I'm starting to run .. |
Diary .. days 785 - 812 (01-02-07 to 28-02-07) |
01-02-07
... knocked off my motor bike again .. a hit and run driver in the
evening rush hour .. my first real injury .. a difficult broken thumb. 07-02-07 .. A major change of hormone regime causes "problems". |
Diary .. days 813 - 840 (01-03-07 to 28-03-07) |
Well
I'm still of work, it's soo boring and I'm worrying about my
position at work. 27-03-07 .. "It's still only 8 weeks, don't worry" .. says the Physio. |
Diary .. days 841 - 868 (29-03-07 to 25-04-07) |
19/04/07 .. I'm having to seek a delay in my GRS due to my damaged thumb probably needing to be reset to correct my 1/2" shortfall, however disappointing this is, my hands must take priority. |
Diary .. days 869 - 896 (26-04-07 to 23-05-07) |
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Diary .. days 897 - 924 (24-05-07 to 20-06-07) |
08/06/07 .. I've got a new date for my GRS 16/01/08 !! |
Diary .. days 925 - 952 (21-06-07 to 18-07-07) |
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Diary .. days 953 - 980 (19-07-07 to 15-08-07) |
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Diary .. days 981 - 1008 (16-08-07 to 12-09-07) |
... 30th August .. Sarah is 2 years old today .. !!! |
Diary .. days 1009 - 1036 (13-09-07 to 10-10-07) |
09/10/07 .. It's our silver wedding anniversary !! |
Diary .. days 1037 - 1064 (11-10-07 to 07-11-07) |
20th - 28th .. a little holiday ..
at home. 27/10/07 .. It's Karen's Birthday, and my uncle died today .. the only person to not know me as Sarah !! |
Diary .. days 1065 - 1092 (08-11-07 to 05-12-07) |
06/11/07
.. Chelsea & Westminster Hospital to see if they can do anything
with my right thumb and hand .. probably not !! 10/11/07 .. 2 years to the day my son rejected me .. he's back !! |
Diary .. days 1093 - 1120 (06-12-07 to 02-01-08) |
08/12/07
.. It's the company Christmas party in Manchester but Karen and I have
decided not to go again because of my work situation !! 09/12/07 .. Three years on Hormones today. |
Diary .. days 1121 - 1148 (03-01-08 to 30-01-08) |
11/01/08
.. I fly off for my SRS/GRS on 16/01/08 .. it's happiness, pain and
danger .. you don't expect to be poisoned by your hotel !! See my Thailand photo section for the pictures !! |
Diary .. days 1149 - 1176 (31-01-08 to 27-02-08) |
16/02/08 .. I fly home from my SRS/GRS, for a happy future ? |
Diary .. days 1177 - 1204 (28-02-08 to 26-03-08) |
Finding time to continue this in the current format is becoming very difficult .. the drudgery ( dilating ) takes so much time out of everyday and sitting at the PC isn't very comfortable at the moment !!! |
Diary .. days 1205 - 1232 (27-03-08 to 23-04-08) |
Back to work .. !!!! I'm allowed to start the first two and a half weeks doing a 3 day week, I get so tired I find on the days I work, short days or not. |
Diary .. days 1233 - 1260 (24-04-08 to 21-05-08) |
Well my diary has to end or change format sometime .. there's going to be less mundane detail now .. I haven't got the time. |
Diary .. days 1261 - 1288 (22-05-08 to 18-06-08) |
Floods in Somerset .. and some nice roses .. and meet a really nice colleague .. DJ Tony .. log tastic mate .. LOL. |
Diary .. days 1289 - 1316 (19-06-08 to 16-07-08) |
1st
July .. an appointment with Dr Perring.
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Diary .. days 1317 - 1344 (17-07-08 to 13-08-08) |
7th
- 11th August .. a trip to France .. Monnett's and Dior's homes &
gardens .. WOW!! .. I've done a special page of pictures . .sorry about
the legs !!!
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Diary .. days 1345 - 1372 (14-08-08 to 10-09-08) |
30th
August .. I'm 3 years old !!
A horrible night in Cardiff .. 19th August .. a nice meal with friends on the 20th. |
Diary .. days 1373 - 1400 (11-09-08 to 08-10-08) |
I'm
seriously starting to hate computers .. they are costing me, well Bob's
is, too many late nights .. but there is a chink of light at the end of
the tunnel .. LOL.
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Diary .. days 1401 - 1428 (09-10-08 to 05-11-08) |
Our wedding anniversary .. and Karen's birthday. |
Diary .. days 1429 - 1456 (06-11-08 to 03-12-08) |
09-11 .. we get to meet the future in-laws .. 11-11 .. a shopping trip to LTS for a frock for the company bash 28/11/08 .. my father died. |
Diary .. days 1457 - 1484 (04-12-08 to 31-12-08) |
Well this diary has served it's
purpose, pointless carrying on, I go weeks now without feedback, though
it wasn't really written to entertain others, I know a few still read
here regularly, but they are getting fewer .. time to think about this,
to carry on or not. Serious picture feast this month .. updated heavily
19-12-08. |
Diary .. days 1485 - 1512 (01-01-09 to 28-01-09) |
Surprise !!! .. I'm probably going to continue till after my trip to Thailand in March ( I hope ) .. maybe till Easter .. but the format has to change. 11-01-09 .. I e-mail the Suporn Clinic to try and get a date for my next surgery ( BA ) and SRS revision .. waiting for a reply !!. |
Diary .. days 1513 - 1540 (29-01-09 to 25-02-09) |
29-01-09 .. I've got my flights booked for my return to Thailand!!! 04-02-09 .. My money is on it's way to Dr Suporn .. and it seems my thoughts here have got me into trouble !! |
Diary .. days 1541 - 1568 (26-02-09 to 25-03-09) |
24th March .. my date for BA and
Upper Lip Lift with Dr Suporn. The SRS revision is just amazing, a
friend who visits doesn't recognize my face post ULL, as for the BA ..
look lovely, hurt like hell !!.
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Diary .. days 1569 - 1596 (26-03-09 to 22-04-09) |
28-03-09
.. Discharged after 4 night's in hospital on morphine ..
without any serious pain killers .. BA ( or AM) is the op that most say
hurts most .. not a happy first night back at hotel as a result !!
16-04-09 rushed to hospital for an adrenaline jab .. fish allergy triggered by crocodile steak !!. I'm home .. 22-04-09 .. phew !! |
Diary .. days 1597 - 1624 (23-04-09 to 20-05-09) |
Back home .. exhausted .. Dr's given me an EpiPen and sorting an appointment with Allergy specialist .. shaking off the jet lag was difficult, and my breasts swelled up again .. that and the jet lag is wearing me down . 13th May .. an unpleasant meeting at work. |
Diary .. weeks 233 - 236 (21-05-09 to 17-06-09) |
It's time to change format .. less
mundane detail .. DOH .. spotted the difference yet .. << sighs >> .. LOL. 26th May .. my PEP at work .. will be hell probably .. but could have been worse .. why .. ??. |
Diary .. weeks 237 - 240 (18-06-09 to 15-07-09) |
Things
are getting unpleasant at work .. I'm sure the pressure is to drive me
out .. probably
.. maybe I'm paranoid, but I am over worked !!.
Still not got to grips with this new format .. LOL .. but the lack of just notes some days shows how hard work is making my life. 7th July .. my doctor says I'm stressed and depressed .. she's put me back on Prozac .. she's going to monitor me more closely now. |
Diary .. weeks 241 - 244 (16-07-09 to 12-08-09) |
26th July pictures of our new car,
pre delivery .. check that
colour out in the close up .. very feminine .. in a violet way
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28th July .. I saw another GP .. he's
doubled my dose of Prozac as it's not achieved the desired effect ..
31st July .. maybe the prozac is now working .. the easiest dilation
for about 8 weeks .. my spirits are lifted.
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Diary .. weeks 245 - 248 (13-08-09 to 09-09-09) |
The doubled dose of Prozac is working
for me, helped no doubt by my company realizing I was cracking
under the strain. Dilation's are easier and I'm sleeping a lot better,
hopefully the unwinding viscous circle will help me settle and get back
off the Prozac soon. Me in my
bikini on Bob's boat!!
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Diary .. weeks 249 - 252 (10-09-09 to 07-10-09) |
Things
are pretty unpleasant at work .. I'm getting seriously stressed.
21.09.09 .. my GP insists on signing me off work for a week for "work related stress" ( he wanted two weeks ) before he'll help me with things to make me sleep. 23.09.09 .. I'm rushed to hospital from home in agony with my chest .. |
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Diary .. weeks 253 - 256 (08-10-09 to 05-11-09) |
27.10.09
.. Karen's 50th birthday .. my son Robert and step son Jamie stitch me
up on this day .. I'm banned from the days celebrations by them so they
can invite transphobic sister in law Tracy and her taught to be
transphobic kids for most of day .. nice, thanks .. but I'm invited to
foot bill for £60 a head restaurant for three hours attendance in
evening .. Karen and her Dad didn't think that fair either in any
respect.
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Diary .. weeks 257 - 260 (06-11-09 to 02-12-09) |
I'm
removed as co-owner of SRSinThailand and a moderator
from Post op girls club after the other owner Tina Marie Phillips
( aka Miss Vanity ) gets the arse with me for watching her back .. I
get the knife instead .. you know who your friends are .. I do, even if
she doesn't. So I've started my own group (s ) .. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GRSinThailand/
is one of them ..
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Diary .. weeks 261 - 264 (03-12-09 to 30-12-09) |
09.11.09 .. 5 years on HRT today !!! |
Diary .. weeks 265 - 268 (31-12-09 to 27-01-10) |
00.00
hrs 01/01/10 Tina Marie Phillips kills off SRSinThailand.
09.15 hrs 01/01/10 Karen gives me some devastating news .. it ends here I think. 19/01/10 .. A few people have emailed me in the last week asking me to continue or at least make a statement about things. To be honest I've lost heart in this now, I've been keeping a few basic notes some days but not a lot. More worrying news on the 11th hasn't helped either. So I've uploaded what I have .. |
Diary .. weeks 269 - 272 (28-01-10 to 24-02-10) |
13/02/10
.. The news from today's meeting seems to confirm everything Karen told
me new years morning .. I feel so low, everything I've worked for, for
US, over the last 27+ years is lost .. well 50% of it and all my future
hopes .. that's it. 20/02/10 .. Things seem less black .. there is hope for "us" yet I feel as we try to plan some positive changes we both want .. the reality, for what ever reason .. is .. we do need each other. |
Diary .. weeks 273 - 276 (25-02-10 to 24-03-10) |
Work
continues to be hell, home life a little less so .. I really need a
break.
28/02/10 .. a couple of days on Bob's new boat .. in a car park. 02/03/10 .. I go and stay with Christine in Whitby, gosh this is what I needed .. except for the calls from work .. holiday .. what holiday thanks to work, but Christine & co are lovely people. |
Diary .. weeks 277 - 280 (25-03-10 to 21-04-10) |
26/03/10
.. Bob's "new" boat gets launched .. and I do the "maiden
voyage" from Port Solent to Gosport Marina, it's home.
27/03/10 .. A nice meal out for Karen and I with friends. 09/04/10 .. a trip to St Vaast with Karen for a break for 3 nights. |
Diary .. weeks 281 - 284 (22-04-10 to 19-05-10) |
23/04/10
.. In to hospital for an Angiogram following my two failed
treadmill exercise tests .. it doesn't go straight forward but maybe a
step closer to what I'm truly allergic to .. iodine.
02/05/10 .. A lovely break in Whitby with a very good friend .. 06/05/10 .. In to hospital for Gynaecology and Urology investigations .. I'm left to stew over some of the results .. now I'm bleeding more!!. |
Diary .. weeks 285 - 288 (20-05-10 to 16-06-10) |
25
- 27 /05/10 .. I should have seen this coming .. well actually I did
.. for a long time I've known my MD has had it in for me, with his
health affecting stress and pressure .. but I'm not going to take this
laying down .. I'm losing the plot here with this .. I've got to
simplify this.
As a result the last few weeks here are a bit patchy !!! |
Diary .. weeks 289 - 292 (17-06-10 to 14-07-10) |
July
14th 2010 .. Sorry folks .. I've suspended diary updates for the time being. But do check back from time to time .. when it comes it'll be a big read !!! To let you know I was told I would be made redundant on 29th June .. 15 years to the day that I joined the company. |
Diary .. weeks 293 - 296 (15-07-10 to 11-08-10) |
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Diary .. weeks 297 - 300 (12-08-10 to 08-09-10) |
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